She is Adorned: Gentility and Quietness


Hi Ladies,

I hope that you all are doing well! I expect that I will not have as much time to post on the blog once the college semester begins on the 9th. I will try to not neglect you all though. This post is going to be specifically geared towards my fellow sisters in Christ. This will be another study of Biblical Femininity. It is important that as females we cultivate a gentle and quiet spirit. 1 Peter 3:3-4 (ESV), “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” There are often misconceptions about what the apostle Peter meant. Our culture encourages girls to be themselves and to fight for what they want or “deserve”. However, Christians are told in Ephesians 4:22-24 (ESV), “to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.” We have to lose ourselves in order to embrace freedom in Jesus. Jesus calls Christian women to a life of inner modesty. We are asked to clothe ourselves with a gentle (or meek) and quiet spirit.

The Greek word for meekness in vs. 4 means to not create disturbances. A woman who is meek is peaceful, and she does not always speak her mind. She submits unto the Lord, and she accepts the trials that come her way. Meekness is not weakness. It is instead self-control. The Bible Study Tools Dictionary defines meekness in this way, “The use of the Greek word when applied to animals makes this clear, for it means “tame” when applied to wild animals. In other words, such animals have not lost their strength but have learned to control the destructive instincts that prevent them from living in harmony with others.” This is a neat picture of how we are made for marital harmony as well as harmony in the body of Christ. We are called to not cause trouble, but to “have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, and a humble mind” when it comes to our relationships with other believers (1 Peter 3:8).

Quietness is an action in response to disturbances around us. A woman who is quiet and soft-spoken in her words realizes the power of her tongue. She is not quick to speak, and in prayerful consideration she is discerning in her daily conversations. Proverbs 12:18 (ESV), “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” She understands the harm in gossiping and will not participate in it.  A woman who possesses a quiet spirit is also slow to anger and quick to extend mercy. Like Jesus she will be mocked and scorned for being set-apart, but she will turn the other cheek. 1 Peter 2:23 (ESV), “When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly.”

The Lord calls us to quit crying out, “Look at me”, and to instead proclaim “Look at the greatness of my glorious God”. Because God has granted us redemption and a chance to be His children, we must live like Christ daily. We must live in love by asking God for meekness and for wisdom in responding to those around us. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-5 (ESV), “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.”

My prayer is that God would cultivate quiet and meek spirits within all of us! I praise God for His grace when we fail and His wisdom to teach us. I hope that you all have a blessed week. May your coffee be strong.

In Christ’s love,